Kurt McKee

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A culture of aggression

Posted 9 May 2007 in conformance, foster-house, heterosexuality, people, and social-norm

Foster House, as an all-male dorm, is great. We have some awesome guys here, but then there are some who tend to dominate my floor. They're fairly loud, and they generally talk big to establish themselves as alpha males. Standard stuff, but their interactions just keep reinforcing an exclusive community.

In particular, these joes keep calling each other degrading names and talking about really lewd stuff.

[WARNING - The following list is full of direct quotes, and none of it is appropriate. Skip it if you've never been exposed to college males.]


  • "You gettin' some cutty tonight?"

  • "What's up, fags!"

  • "What are you homos listening to?!"

  • "You been suckin' some D or something. Sucking it all up."

  • "Bunch of pecker lickers!"

  • "She cute? You gonna slap her with your D?"

  • "You all are just gay as hell!"

  • "Well there's a bitch! What's up, Kurt!"


I generally don't respond in kind to the above, and I don't have any stories of weekend conquests, so I stand out from the crowd. I'd like to say that I don't care what anybody thinks. Maybe I could even be condescending and suggest that I'm better than them because I don't have to talk about how gay all of my friends are in order to reinforce my heterosexuality. But that wouldn't exactly be accurate. I experience some pressure because I don't conform to the normal: aggressive language and an obsession with heterosexual sex.